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Sunday, January 20, 2019

5 Things To Remember When It Comes To Toxic Family Members


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There is a lot of advice to be found about getting rid of a friend, boyfriend or girlfriend. But what do you do when you have an issue with a family member?

When it comes to family, you are sometimes not in a position where you can just break off the relationship and walk away.

Or maybe we don't really want to walk away or will feel horrible if we do. So, what do you do?

Even though not every case of dealing with a negative family member is the same, there are some universal principles you need to remember.



Below are 5 things to remember when dealing with disgruntled family members.

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1. Pretending that their behavior is OK is not OK

These types family members sometimes behave the way they do to get what they want. It's just so much easier to give in than it is to fight it. Right? Wrong!

Short-term ease equals long-term pain for you in a situation like this. These people won't change if they are being rewarded for not changing.

Decide this minute not to be influenced by their behavior. Stop giving in to them or making special pardons for their behaviors.

Constant drama and negativity is never worth putting up with.

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2. They may not be bad people

Just because their behavior is bad does not mean they are inherently bad people. Not all family members are agonizing and uncaring on purpose.

Some of them are people who truly care about you; people who have good intentions, but are draining because their needs and approach towards life force you to compromise yourself and your happiness.

As hard as it may be, you have to distance yourself.

You simply can't ruin yourself on a daily basis for the sake of someone else. You have to make your well-being a priority.


3. Forgiveness is key

Hating someone because of their behavior just brings more issues into your life. Hate-filled grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something.

Forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are strong enough and smart enough to move on.

After all, the best revenge is to be unlike the person who hurt you. As Gandhi once said, "An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind."

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4. People can changeNobody is perfect, people can change and relationships can be healed in time.

But, when trust is broken, which happens in nearly every family relationship at some point, it's essential to understand that it can be repaired provided both people are willing to do the hard work of self-growth.

It's painful work and a painful time, and the impulse will be to walk away, especially if you believe that broken trust cannot be repaired.

But if you understand that trust levels rise and fall over the course of a lifetime you'll be more likely to find the strength to hang in, hang on, and grow together.

But it does take two. You can't do it alone.

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5. Sometimes you have to walk away for good

Finally, remember that this is your life. You may not be able to control all the things your family members do, but you can decide not to be reduced by them in the long run.

You can decide not to let their actions and opinions continuously invade your heart and mind.

Above all, you can decide whom to walk beside into tomorrow, and whom to leave behind today.

In a perfect world we would always be able to fix our relationships with family members, but as you know the world isn't perfect.

Put in the effort and do what you can to keep things intact, but don't be afraid to let go and do what's right for YOU when you must.

By Higher Perspective

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